Racism, sexism, patriarchy, generational trauma, other folks’ emotional immaturity, messed up theology … These things weigh on us. They try to steal our self-love and self-worth. They try to silence us. They try to block joy, pleasure, and general well-being from our lives. As part of my resistance to all that, I created the Black Womanhood (Re-) Affirmation Project, a workshop series to help us as Black women love our bodies, find spiritual freedom, feel whole, and re-affirm black womanhood.


Originally called “Black Womanhood Revival, the Black Womanhood (Re)-Affirmation Project uses text, writing, storytelling, and dance rooted in black feminism, womanism, and the African diaspora to generate the radical self-love that leads to liberation and helps shore up our resilience.


I believe the knowledge I’ve gained through academia and writing can help you do the same things it’s done for previous clients and for me: confront past hurts and damaging beliefs, know the ways you need to be cared for, love yourself fiercely, and feel whole. But I don’t believe you should have to spend years writing research papers, arguing theory, losing sleep, and going into student loan debt to be free. So I guide you through exercises and activities that help you apply existing theory and research directly to your everyday life, giving you tools to catalyze personal transformation.

"I am able to accept myself even more. I appreciate Mariam 'giving back'; sure, I have taken some college courses along the way, but this could be shared with the 'uneducated' as well."


Participant, Black Womanhood Revival, Spring 2019

You might benefit from my programs if:

  • Your upbringing made you feel like your body is inherently sinful and/or shameful.
  • You genuinely love and appreciate your faith tradition, but you also feel like its ritual or style are cutting you off from who you are culturally, politically, intellectually, or sexually.
  • You want to look in the mirror and see more than just your trauma and more than a survivor of trauma.
  • You seem like you have it all, and while your life really is good, you still don’t feel free. You feel like you’re performing all the time and not living like the real you.
  • You think #BlackGirlMagic is dope, but you don’t know anything about black feminism and never took a women & gender studies course.
  • You need guidance on how you can use who you are as a woman, as a Black woman, as a creative, sexual, whole being, to further develop yourself and to give your family/friends/community a different example of Black Womanhood.


  • You want to love your body, your sexuality, your personality, your color, but you feel like you’re breaking too many rules when you express that.
  • You want to be able to bring your whole self to faith spaces, or learn how to be a faith leader who encourages everyone to bring their all.
  • You’re curious about alternatives for spirituality, but you don’t want to step too far outside your faith traditions.
  • You need some self care, and you’re ready to invest in self care you’ll get something out of.
  • “Feminism” is a scary word, and you’ve seen “womanist” on Twitter, but you don’t really know what either of them are or how they could benefit you.
  • You’re a lifelong learner and curious person, and you want something deeper than a women’s conference, more culturally specific than continuing adult education, and nowhere near the depth (and debt) of grad school.
  • You work with a group of women who fit in the above descriptions, and you want me to do a live workshop with your group. If so, contact me.
“The [week on religion and spirituality] challenged an oppressive view of a relationship with God, and offered a possibility for spiritual intimacy and liberation.”

Black Womanhood Revival Participant, Spring 2019

My next course in the Black Womanhood (Re-) Affirmation Project is called “Being Django Jane,” and it begins in January 2020. You and up to 11 other women will meet in live weekly online sessions for 6 weeks to learn tools to help unchain yourselves from church girl shame and guilt about flesh, sex, and pleasure; love your bodies; and find WHOLENESS in body, mind, and spirit. As Toni Morrison told us through Baby Sugg’s sermon in Beloved, “Yonder, they do not love your flesh. … You got to love it, you!” So let’s fortify ourselves for the new decade with radical self-love!

Sign-ups for the workshop open on Friday, Nov. 29. Click here for more details.

Any questions about any of the above? Contact me.